Do you think of yourself as a Carer?

Here’s an excerpt from my forthcoming handbook. Dementia: A Practical Handbook for Working People Caring for a Loved One.

Caring can creep up on you, little by little and you find you are doing more and more for your Loved One. It may start off with popping in once a week to see if they need any shopping. It may be doing small jobs around the house. One day you go round and find they’re not sure what day it is or they’ve put the bin out on the wrong day. They’ve forgotten how to make a cup of tea. You have a little chuckle together but your mind is alerting to it. Lots of little, insignificant things. You then find that you’re going in almost every day because there’s a niggling thought at the back of your mind that they’re not coping as well as they used to and you don’t want to leave them on their own in case something happens.

Dementia also creeps up. You may notice they are becoming very forgetful, asking about the same thing over and over again, becoming noticeably frailer and not wanting to go out. Their personality may change, they get annoyed very easily or even become slightly aggressive, which is not in their nature.

However it happens, over a period of time you find that you are spending more time with them, worrying about them, doing more for them or finding other people who can help. You may start looking up “Early Signs of Dementia” on the internet, being scared by what you see and thinking “My Loved One does that…….”

You are taking on the role of Carer.