Life’s not fair but you don’t have to put on a brave face all the time.
I heard of a lady recently who is trying to cope with her Mum in a Care Home, her Dad isn’t well and needs help to look after himself. Her husband is away with work a lot, she has a son at home and also works full time.
If you thought I made this up – I didn’t.
The response to this situation is often to “put on a brave face and keep going”. Whilst this is admirable it doesn’t get you the help you need.
It also doesn’t help you to look after yourself whilst trying to cope with everything that Life throws at you. We put on a brave face, to cover the fact that we’re crumbling inside.
There’s nothing wrong with that – but if you cover things up and no one realises you need help, then they won’t offer it to you or help you to find it.
After a lifetime of working with people I’d like to say….
It’s ok to say “Things aren’t great”
It’s ok to say “I need some help”
It’s ok to say “I can’t do this all on my own”
This does not mean you are a failure, inadequate in any way – it means you are human.
If you ask for help, from work, from friends, relatives or a support organisation you may be surprised where it will materialise from. It could be something very simple – but it could make a huge difference to you.
Having someone impartial and pragmatic to work with you so you feel it’s ok to ask others for help will go a long way to making sure you can cope. I can help you or someone you know in this situation.
Remember – you don’t have to do it all by yourself.